Belief Systems Will Make You Succeed (or Fail)
It’s well understood that up to 80% of small businesses will fail. Even armed with this knowledge, you’ve set out on the epic journey that is small business ownership.
To date you’ve done well. Yet, when trouble rears its head you always fall back on preconceived thoughts:
“Small business is an an environment I’m not meant to succeed in”
“The cards are stacked against me”
“Nobody wants what I have”
How many times have you told yourself something similar?
You’re not alone. According to the National Science Foundation, we have up to 60,000 thoughts per day and 80% are negative. That’s pretty dire.
Such a high negative thought rate indicates that we fall back into poor thinking because it’s been learnt from a young age – it’s our experience. We’re just used to being detrimental to ourselves.
It’s the belief system you choose to follow (and believe in) that impacts how you operate in life.
It’s a simple equation really; If you think you can’t, you won’t. If you think you can, you will.
While having a positive attitude is well understood, what’s not address is the cause of the problem and the reasons why the wrong mindset seems to be our ‘go to device’.
Beliefs are generally formed in two ways (and almost always develop when we’re children):
- Through experiences: There’s nothing more powerful as a learning (or self-preservation) tool than what we experience firsthand. A 2016 Business Insider article documented the 30 scientific ways in which your childhood affects your success as an adult. One example states “if you experience maltreatment as a child, you’re twice as likely to be depressed now”.
- Believing what others tell us is true: This can either be positive or negative. If you were to believe what you were told about yourself in the playground, chances are you’ll have low self-esteem. Yet in a nurturing environment, it’s possible to build up a positive belief system that benefits one’s life.
In business, how much of an effect has your childhood played on your success (or lack of it)?
When I ask this question to my clients they quickly realise they’ve never really given it any thought. But, without the correct belief system in place you’ll fail at business.
The evidence belief systems work
When I spoke to a client of mine about his limiting beliefs he didn’t make the connect to success straight away.
His business is a good idea and he’s likable. There’s no reason his potential customers wouldn’t buy from him. But according to him, he can’t sell and was angling to build his business off referrals alone.
I pressed him further of his rationale behind such a ridiculous claim. As always, the belief was created through experience. Initially when pitching his idea he was met with no interest from the people he was speaking too. After a few situations like this, his confidence was dented so he decided selling wasn’t for him and referrals were the way forward.
Imagine spending the rest of your business journey limiting your abilities based off a few interactions in the early days. This was where he was at.
I could see this was going to hold him back and jeopardise the success of his business.
To solve the limiting belief you need to analyse the entire system he was operating in. I got him to talk me through his sales process. In short, the real issue he faced was not being able to sell but how to sell. He would get on a phone call with a prospect and freeze.
His limiting beliefs take hold from an early age and informed everything he did from that moment. His mindset was:
“I can’t do this. I’m not confident dealing with people I don’t know”.
Believing statements like this is the death of what he wanted to achieve.
I didn’t give him motivational quotes to get him through. Instead we put a strategy in place. The central concern was not knowing what to say when on the phone.
It’s a tried and tested process but together we created a cold-call phone script in which he could rely on when contacting his prospects. Now each time he needs to speak with potential customers, he has a framework in place that eradicates his negative beliefs and supports his business goals.
It’s working. To meet recent customer demand, he’s had to build out his full time team with three new staff members. It’s not the cold-calling script that did this.
That’s helped him make sales, but his growth has come from having eradicating negative beliefs. Now he views challenges as achievable not impossible.
Life and business will always throw up challenges. Having a process in place to understand how you need to act is paramount to your success.
Here are four steps to change a belief:
- Become aware of the different parts that make up a belief: In life you need to be self-aware. Commit to understanding what’s going on for you and isolate the negative beliefs you have. Trust me, there will be a lot.
- Release the emotions held in those beliefs: Identify what it is that makes you believe in something counterproductive to your success. It’s not necessarily easy and may require professional help, but the emotions that impact your believes need to be dealt with and let go.
- Shift your perspective so you can see the identity as false: I’m yet to meet someone who is as bad as they think they are. The negative beliefs you hold about yourself are wrong. Start believing in yourself.
- Break the bonds of beliefs that make an idea or thought powerful: There are triggers as to why you believe the things you do. If you can understand what they are, you can crush their debilitating effect.
I know this four step process works. It’s what I rely on when self doubt creeps in.
Here’s how my belief system has been created
While I grew up in a happy and healthy home, like every teenager, I was subjected to taunts and behaviours (often in the schoolyard) that still cause me to question my abilities to this day. And on occasion I still feel anxiety around certain things.
I realised that my issues as an adult often stemmed from my formative years. While this doesn’t fix the problem, it’s satisfying to know I’m not failing as an adult. I still need to do the work in order to be free of its constraints.
For me, I came to the conclusion that my past experiences don’t dictate or affect my future and it’s refreshing to know.
No matter what, I know I have the evidence to succeed. In the case of business, I’ve built and sold one before and that’s a driver behind my confidence in starting again with Evolve to Grow.
When problematic situations arise (and they do) my constant self belief is that I can solve anything that I’m presented with. If not, I have the resources and support network to get back on track without the negative impact.
Don’t be confused. I’m not suggesting a can-do attitude or ‘positive thinking’ is the quick fix. While that’s important, the steps and suggestions above go way beyond just random mindset ideas – that’s the stuff of motivational gurus.
What I’m talking about goes much deeper.
To a great extent, your beliefs govern your life. They control what you’re willing to do (or not do), how you approach problems and challenges, what you expect from yourself and others and how you relate to success.
The fundamental thing that can make or break your success in business is your deep-seated beliefs about yourself, other people, and the world.
If your business journey has stagnated and limiting beliefs have set in you’re not alone. I want to help you identify the cause and eradicate its negative impact, let’s chat.